EXPRESSING LOVE, PLEASURE AND RELIEF

Objectives

In this lesson, you will learn about how to say and respond to the expressions of love, pleasure, and relief both formally and informally in daily life context.

Expression of Love

Love is a kind of strong feeling or emotion which is expressed to show that someone cares. It also means happiness. This kind of feeling will show a good or positive attitude. It is not only showed to a special person whom really means for you, but you can also express it to your relatives or friends. People commonly express their love in various ways such as telling it directly, giving a gift or a card, making a poem, singing a song, and writing a letter. However, in this lesson, you will only focus on how to express love in words.

There are several phrases to express love. Yet, when you want to express love you should pay attention to these situations:

People usually express their affection formally through a letter, poem, or song. Here are some phrases you can use:

I love you.
I do love you.
I adore you.
I will always love you.
I think I'm in love with you.
Let me be with you.
You're just adorable.
I’m falling in love with you.

Example:

Because I'm falling in love with you
It's the easiest thing for me to do
Yes, I'm falling in love with you, it's true”
(Song writer: Moore, Gary)

Some people also call their beloved person by using these phrases:

• My dear
• My love
• My darling
• My dearest one

Example:
Conversation
(Situation: Julian expresses his love to his fiance)

Julian: My dear, I have something for you.
Vinie: What is it?
Julian: Just open it.
Vinie: A bar of chocolate. Wow ... thank you darling. I love you.
Julian: You’re welcome, honey.

When falling in love, Sometimes people use exaggerating words to express their feelings as follows:

My heart is in your hands.
I'm absolutely crazy about you.
I cannot stop thinking about you.
My heart can’t stop beating when I see you.

Expression of Relief

In this section, you will learn some expressions to tell or show how relief you are after getting through some awful conditions. When you are in a bad situation because you are facing some problems, you will feel worried, won’t you? However, after solving those problems you will feel relieved.

Relief is a situation where you can end your bad feeling such as pain and worry. This kind of expression felt when something terrible has ended; it is called expressions of relief.

Here are some short phrases you can use to express relief:

Oh, good!
What a relief!
That's a relief!
Oh, marvelous!,
I’m glad it was done.

Example:
(Situation: Tiara is almost late to take the airplane)
Tiara: What time does the airplane take off?
Jovan: It should be on 4.30.
Tiara: Ah, it’s 4.45. I’m late.
Jovan: Don’t worry. The departure is delayed for an hour because of bad weather.
Tiara: What a relief!

Other phrases that are usually used formally can be seen as follows:

Thank my goodness!
Thank goodness you're safe.
I'm glad everything's running well.
Thank God for .... (mention your problem)
It’s a relief to know that .... (mention what you have solved)

Example:

Conversation
(Situation: Arfin has just got an accident, but he is safe)
Dina : What happened to you? Your hand is bleeding.
Arfin: I just got an accident when I was going to school.
Dina : Oh ... poor you.
Arfin: The rider who hit me passed away in that accident, but I’m still alive.
Dina : Thank goodness you're safe.

Conversation
(Situation: Rendi has just passed the exam and it was running well)
Renata: What’s going on? You look so happy.
Rendi: I have just passed the exam. I’m glad everything’s running well.
Renata: That’s good. Congratulations!
Rendi: Thanks.

Expression of Pleasure

Expression of pleasure is an expression to show happiness feeling because of something has happened.

Here are the following phrases you can use:

That’s great.
It is really delightful / I am delighted.
It’s really a great pleasure.
I am pleased.
That’s wonderful.
It’s my pleasure!

(Situation: Rendi has just passed the exam and it was running well)
Renata : What’s going on? You look so happy.
Rendi : I have just passed the exam. I am pleased the result was good.
Renata : That’s great. Congratulations!
Rendi : Thanks.

Key Points

1. Expressions of love is not limited to show affection in the context of a romantic relationship, e.g. between girlfriend-boyfriend or between fiance (a couple that is engaged, usually this shows a stronger commitment before marriage). Expressing love can be said and written to parents, siblings (sisters and brothers) or others that you care. However, you need to be careful in choosing which expressions suit universal love and which one that suit romantic love.
2. Expressing relief and pleasure is only appropriate to say or write (perhaps in short text messaging) when you express it without making others feel down. Sometimes, you feel happy and satisfied but your friends don’t.

Expressing Sadness and Pain

Objectives

Responding to meaning in formal and sustained transactional (to get things done) and intrapersonal (socializing) conversations using oral texts accurately and fluently in daily life context involving: stating position, expressing sadness and pain.

Lesson

Expressing Sadnes and Pain

There are times when we feel sad about things in our life. Sadness is the feeling of being unhappy. It is a normal feeling, because everyone feels sad sometimes. You may feel sad for many reasons. It happens when you lose something important, or when you haven’t achieved your goals. Being ignored, rejected, or disappointed, can also make you feel sad.

Being sad can be painful. If you cannot handle it well, your feeling will get even worse. When you are sad, you can help yourself by telling your problems to others. You can tell it to your family, friends, or teachers. Expressing sadness can heal you feelings and relieve your burdens.

Before we learn about how to express sadness in English, please read the following conversation.

Gian: Hi, friend. How are you doing?
Juna : Well, not good.
Gian: What’s the matter?
Juna : I failed on math exam. I have studied hard I don’t know why I failed. I am so sad.
Gian: I feel you. Maybe you have to relax for a while. Don’t stress yourself out.
Juna : Yes, It will be nice. Thanks for your suggestion.
Gian: Don’t mention it. That’s what friends are for.

To express your sadness, you can use these phrases:

I can’t believe what’s going on.
I am very sad about…
I am so sad.
It makes me so sad.
I can’t hold my tears on it.
I just don’t know what to do.
How sorrowful it is.
Please leave me alone.
I’m feeling blue.

Sadness can also be caused by pain or physical suffering. When you get hurt or feel pain on your body, you may express by saying.

(Ouch!) That hurts!
It’s really painful.
I feel sick.
It really hurts me
The pain hurts me really bad.
It’s killing me!

How to Respond to Sadness and Pain

Objectives

Learning Objective: In this lesson, you will learn about how to respond to sadness and pain.

Lesson

Don't worry, everything is going to be alright.
                                                         (Bob Marley)

Responding to sadness

When you see people around you look so sad, what will you do? When you see your friends crying, will you ask them why or just ignore them?

Sadness is unpleasant or unhappy feeling about something bad that happens in our life. We have good and bad things in our life. When good things happened, we feel happy; so it is normal to feel sad, when bad things happened to us. When we are sad, we want people to care about us. It is why we need to give our attention to anyone who looks sad around us.

When people telling you about their sadness, you can respond in many ways such as giving a hug, cheering them up, asking them to go out or watch, or something else. However, not all people will tell you the reason why they look so sad.

When you see your friends or relatives look so sad, you can show your care by using these phrases:
Are you alright?
What happened?
What’s going on?
What can I do to help?
Would you like to talk about it?
Is there anything I can do for you?

If they are trying to tell you their problem, you may also use the following short phrases to show that you are listening to them:

Oh no!
Oh dear.
What a pity!
Oh, poor you.
I'm sorry to hear that.
That's horrible.
That's too bad.

To show your care, you can motivate and encourage. You can also relieve their burden by showing sympathy, letting them know that you feel what they feel. There are many expressions that is meant to relieve someone’s burden.

Cheer up!
Lighten up!
Take it easy.
It’ll get better soon.
Don’t worry, you’ll be alright.
I can't believe that.
I know how you feel.
I'm sorry to hear that.
I’m really sad to know it.

Example:

Kristoff: Hey Anna, are you alright? Why are you crying?
Anna: It’s nothing.
Kristoff: Really? You can always tell me your problems. You know that.
Anna: It’s about my sister, Elsa. She was angry with me, and she left me alone.
Kristoff: Oh, that’s too bad.
Anna: I’m so sad. She is my only family that I have.
Kristoff: Take it easy, Anna. It will get better soon. You will meet your sister again.
Anna: Thank you, Kristoff.

Responding to pain

Pain is a condition of physical suffering caused by diseases or injury. When something or someone hurts you, you may feel so sad or upset. How do you feel if this condition happens to your friends, relatives or others? Will you feel the same? Actually, it is not about we feel the same or not.

When you care of people around you, you may respond to the pain by using these phrases:

It must be really painful.
That’s really bad.
That’s terrible.
Oh, poor you.
It sounds painful.

To show your care about someone’s pain, you can offer suggestion or help by using these expressions

You should see a doctor.
You need a treatment
Take a medicine.
Take some rest.
Should I take you some medicine?
Should I call the doctor?
What can I do to help?
What’s going on?

Key Points

• In conclusion, responding sadness and pain has different ways.
• Sadness means feeling pain mentally such as unsatisfactory feeling towards something happened in the past, while pain is suffering from physical illness.
• To respond to sadness, you can ask about their problem and cheer them up.
• To respond to pain, you can suggest them to see a doctor or take some medicine when they got injured.

Expressing Surprise, Shock and Disbelief

Objectives

In this lesson, you are going to study about expressions of surprise, shock and disbelief, so that you are able to use the expressions for various purposes in daily activities.

Learn about it!

Life is full of changes and mystery. We hear many kinds of news in our life. Every time, good and bad things can happen around us. When we get good news, of course we will feel happy. However, when the news is bad, we can feel surprised, shocked and sometimes do not belief of what happens.

        When we hear some unexpected news, especially unpleasant ones, how will we respond? In this chapter, you are going to learn about the expressions of surprise, shock and disbelief and how to show your surprises to them. At the end of this topic, you are expected to be able to express surprise, shock and disbelief for various purposes in daily activities contexts.

Expressing Surprise

Feeling surprised about something has two different meanings. A person may feel surprised about something good. For instance, when you get a birthday surprise party, of course you will be surprised in a happy way.

However, feeling surprised can happen to unhappy news. We may be surprised to hear news about accidents, natural disasters, or someone's death. For example, when we hear the news about an earthquake nearby our neighborhood, we might fell surprised and sad.

Look at the examples of expressing surprises below:
• Are you kidding me? How do you know that?
• Are you sure about that?
• Are you serious?

Other ways that can be used in expressing surprises are as follows:
• Are you kidding me?
• Are you sure about that?
• Are you serious?
• You must be joking!
• Wow, what a surprise!
• This is really a surprise for me!
• etc.

In addition to that, if we want to tell someone about some surprising information, we can use the following expressions:
• Guess what! I have the best rank in my school!
• I’ll tell you what! I have a good idea to solve our problem!
• You know what! I’m going to go to Australia next week!

There some more expressions to tell someone about surprising information.
• Guess what!
• I’ll tell you what!
• You know what!
• I’ll tell you something!
• Surprise!
• You won’t believe it!
• Believe it or not!

Expressing Shock

The feeling of shocked is much stronger than surprised. When we feel surprised, it can mean both positive and negative. However, a shocking feeling is often related to something unpleasant, bad or sad.

Look and learn the following examples below:
• I’m shocked to hear that. I really don’t know about the news.
• I’m really speechless to know that. As I know, he is a good boy.

There are some expressions that can be used in giving expressing shock:
• I’m shocked to hear that
• I’m in complete shocked
• I’m really speechless to know that.
• I have nothing to say about this.
• I can’t say anything.
• I have no words ….
• Etc.

Expressing Disbelief

Picture the following situation:

You got a text message informing that one of your classmates is in an intensive care unit of a hospital, and his condition is critical. The message also informs that he has injured himself badly in a single motor accident. As far as you know, he cannot ride a motorcycle. You couldn’t believe that he could get injured by riding a motor.

      The above situation is just an example of a condition where you may wonder whether an information is correct or incorrect. There is a contradiction here, between what you know and the information you get. This raises the feeling of disbelief. It means, you do not believe what you hear.

Learn the following examples. These are the expressions of disbelief that you can say based on the above situation:

• I don’t believe it. He can’t even ride a motorcycle.
• It’s so unbelievable. I know him very well.

Besides that, the following expressions are possible to use in expressing our disbelief to someone or something:
• I don’t believe it!
• It’s so unbelievable!
• I can’t believe it!
• How come?
• How could it be?
• Etc.

Do you understand?

Read the following dialogue. You will learn how to put the expressions above in the real conversation.

Bon: Hello, Arif! You know what! Our school will be on air tonight.

Arif: Really? Are you serious? How do you know that?

Boni: I’m telling the truth. Mr. Karno told us yesterday. You can ask him by yourself.
Arif: Ok, I’m really curious. What time will it start?

Boni: At 9 p.m. But I forget the channel. I’ll text you later. Make sure you watch it, Ok! Please tell others too.

Arif: I’m waiting. I’ll stay tune on the channel tonight.

Keypoints

• When we are going to express surprise, shock and disbelief, we can use the proper expressions based on whether the news is good or bad and how intense it is.
• Surprise may have both positive and negative meanings and the expressions to tell surprises will depend on the news (good or bad).
• Shock is usually something sudden, unexpected, and unpleasant.
  Disbelief relates to a contradictory condition that makes you wonder whether the news is true or not.

Writing Personal Letters

Objectives

Through this section, you will learn how to write personal letters

Learn about it!

Today we’re going to talk about letter writing. We write letters to friends, strangers, businesses, government departments, and institutions.

The tone of a letter can be formal or informal, depending on who is going to read it. There are several purposes for writing letters:
1.giving or requesting information
2. giving instruction
3. relating an events
4. giving goods or bad news
5. complaining
6. describing
7. applying for a job

Some letters can include several of these purposes at the same time. Here are some examples.

Letters for ‘giving information’ might include: travel plans, arrival details, what to see and do on holidays.

Letter ‘requesting information’ might be for: course information, library hours, timetable information.

Some letters for ‘giving the instruction’ include: how to get to your house, how to operate a machine, how to open an account.

And letter ‘ relating an events’ such as an incident or accident; a wedding, a holiday

‘Giving good or bad new’ such as canceling an appointment, accepting a job offer, informing of the birth of the baby.

The letter ‘complaining’ might include poor service in a restaurant, loud noise in your district, a problem with faulty goods.

the letter ‘describing’ might be about: lost property, friends, or a place.

the letter ‘applying for a job’ is called the application letter.

The formal letter begins with the greeting

Dear and closing with yours sincerely

Between the top and the button is the body if the letter. We write because we have the purpose. The purposes in giving information, you might write

I am writing to advise that ...

Or for requesting information you might write

I am writing to request information about...

In giving instruction you might write

I am writing to explain how to ...

In giving good news, you can write

I am very happy to tell you that ..

Communication could be conducted not only spoken but also written form. Communication in written form could be done by letter or electronic letter or e-mail. There are two kinds of letter, they are formal and informal letter, personal and institutional letter. The purpose of the letter is depend on the category of the letter. By categories, there are some such as

·         Request

·         Complaint

·         Bussiness

·         Friendy

Personal letters are the letter made by someone based on his/her purpose formally or informally. The institutional letter is the letter which made by the institution formally. In this lesson, we will practice making personal letters for requesting as the situation below.

The words choice on the above letter use informal language, here is the difference between Personal and Formal letter.

Not only the choice of the words, the structure also differs

So the generic structure of Personal Letters is

1.      The sender’s Address

2.      Date

3.      Salutation

4.      Opening Paragraph (purpose of the letter)

5.      Body paragraph (detail information)

6.      Closing Paragraph (expectation)

7.      Complimentary Close

8.      Signature/ Initial of written
Personal letters can be sent conventionally or by using email/electronic mail. Here presented the form of letters sending via email.

Have you ever been to your friend’s birthday party? Before going to the party, your friend gave you a letter or card to invite you. Well, this kind of letter is an example of an invitation letter. In this section, we will not only learn about invitation letters, but we will also learn how to write it on your own! Let’s get started!

Today, Hannah gets an invitation letter from her friend, Diana. She is not sure whether she can go or not because the party is on the same day with her drama rehearsal. The invitation letter is in the picture below.

In your opinion, what party is going to be held by Diana? When and where? If Hannah decided not to come, when does she need to tell Diana?

From the picture, we can get plenty information, we know that:

1. Diana invites Hannah to her birthday party
2. The party will be in Mountana Residence on Sunday, 18 July 2015
3. If Hannah cannot go, she should tell Diana before 10th July. Why? It is because, in the invitation, we can find this information RSVP before 10th July. RSVP means that you have to confirm whether you will come or not.

So, from Diana’s invitation letter, we know that it should have the following elements:

So, in an invitation letter, there should be the name of the host, information of the event, time of the event, a place to conduct the event, and confirmation date.

There are two types of confirmation date, RSVP and Regret Only. In RSVP, we have to confirm whether we will come or not. In Regret Only, we need to confirm only when we cannot come. Moreover, an invitation letter is written in the present tense.

Look at the invitation letter below. The following invitation letter is not written well. What is wrong with the letter?

Do you find the mistake? Well, there are some mistakes in the card. You will find illogical and missing information in Marsha’s Invitation.

Look at the picture below:

See, the letter is written in the past tense (were). It is inappropriate because an invitation letter should be in the present tense. Moreover, the confirmation date is 5th July, while the Birthday Party will be held on 19 June 2015. The invitation letter also missed important information, i.e. the place of the party!
So, how is it? Have you understood what to write in an invitation letter? Are you ready to write your own invitation letter? Let’s check in the next section!

Do you understand?

Hannah is going to perform a drama. Now, she is going to write an invitation letter to invite people to watch her Drama Show but she is confused about what to write. Would you help her? She just wrote some information in her notebook. Here they are:
1. Name of the Drama Show: Sangkuriang
2. Conducted by Teater Bumi
3. Place: Adam Malik Hall, Aceh Street No. 21
4. Time: Monday, 20 August 2015, 7 p.m. – 9 p.m.
Now, try to write an invitation letter to help Hannah. Write it in the template below.

Have you completed the letter above? Now let's compare to the right answer. Here is the complete invitation letter for Hannah.

Keypoints

In this section, you have learned how to write personal letter letters.

the generic structure of Personal Letter is

1.      The sender’s Address

2.      Date

3.      Salutation

4.      Opening Paragraph (purpose of the letter)

5.      Body paragraph (detail information)

6.      Closing Paragraph (expectation)

7.      Complimentary Close

8.      Signature/ Initial of written

In writing an invitation letter, you have to include some information. They are:

1. Name of the Event
2. Name of the Host
3. Time of the Event
4. Place
5. Date of confirmation

There are two kinds of confirmation. They are RSVP and Regret Only. Besides that, remember, the invitation letter should be in the present tense.